When there is a gap, or several, in our lives, they can yawn empty as chasms. Where is the next big thing coming from? Isn’t it time for something new? Well, maybe, maybe not.

Sometimes the gap, the space, indicates loss, missing things, opportunities or relationships. Even a tiny gap in our teeth can feel huge with tongue exploring round. Never mind the cavernous emptiness when a loved one leaves or passes away. Hearts ache and bleed their loss.

I’ve been living what feels like a lifetime in the gap. In the waiting-room between the here and now and where I want to be. And it hurts. Maybe you’re there too. When dreams fade and reality kicks us in to touch, then maybe it’s time to look at the in-between life differently.

The gaps we can experience

In-between sickness and healing.

Somewhere in the midst of pain and purpose.

Between desire and destiny.

in-between confusion and understanding.

Deep in the valley before we get to the mountaintop.

Between this world and the next.

What if we could see the gap between where we are now and where we want to be as a learning experience?

If we could stop and savour the moment, right here, right now. Feel the pulse beat of our own hearts slow and steady to match His. Find grace and find God. For He’s already here. Arms wide open. Ears attentive. Heart and senses finely tuned. Voice ready to whisper His wisdom.

God is ready to receive us whenever we pause long enough to notice. Yes, even when we build walls to close those gaps – walls of resentment, ignorance, pain, confusion and shame.

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God’s love still seeps through the cracks and empty spaces. Even as we rail and resist the dull and the dry and the downright boring. Even as we race to fill our lives with anything or anyone, spurning the painful places we dare not venture into.

Dreading the dark and quiet of our own lives. A thousand unanswered questions on our lips and no time to wait for a reply. He’ll fill those in-between spaces and all our empty places if we let Him.

Pausing to appreciate the spaces

Each day offers us such spaces. Resting places. Opportunities for openings. Breathing stations on the way, if only we could see them as such. They are potential grace glimmers, soul savers and survival stopgaps.

Life has many slow, mundane moments. Room for pauses. Listening places where wisdom can be imparted. The ordinary can become extraordinary depending on our attitude.

“We were made to wait, to long for things unseen. This is the place from which dreams and desires come. It’s a place of trust – and we find it not in the resolution, but the incompletion” ~ Jeff Goins, The In-Between:Embracing the Tension Between Now and the Next Big Thing

My friend, you and I will find that in-between the mess and muddle of life a message to share is developing. In-between our tests and trials a testimony of God’s grace is shaping itself. Here, as we are now, between living and dying, every moment counts. Nothing is wasted. God uses every crumb.

Embracing the gap of an in-between life

I’m still struggling to fully embrace the in-between life as hope deferred makes the heart sick and waiting for life to improve or change can feel like an eternity. But I want to learn to enjoy the in-between existence because it’s where most of our learning and growing take place.

Faith is stretched. Trust develops and grows. Patience can have its way in producing perseverance and endurance. And perhaps we can learn not to mind having gaps in our goal-getting, pit stops in our progress or spaces in our schedule.

Will you join me in attempting to live well in the waiting-room places of life? We can share and encourage one another to stay strong, live mindfully, be present in the moment and maybe enjoy the journey more because of it.

How do you feel about the pauses in your life? Have you found ways to savour the moment?
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A great book to help us live with the gaps 

PS: The book quoted from above, In-between: Embracing the Tension Between Now and The Next Big Thing is a new one by Jeff Goins, author of Wrecked.

It’s a beautifully written, semi-autobiographical account of learning to live well in the in-between spaces and places of our lives. And in doing so we may even discover our true calling.
Jeff speaks with a great deal of insight, wisdom and wry humour. It’s a powerful, pacey read, full of anecdotal experience to back up the helpful information shared.I highly recommend it as a truly helpful and informative read to encourage us to make the most of our journey of life and faith.