We were latchkey kids, letting ourselves into a cold, dark house, waiting until someone came home from work. Our mum would arrive harassed and hurried, throwing snacks in our direction to help satiate an appetite before food finally made it to the table.
I remember her irritable scowl, lips pursed red around a cigarette as she cooked, while shushing us out from under her feet. I didn’t define home quite like other children did. Ours was a broken place, a site of verbal fights, word sparring, a resentful chill, and an abiding air of animosity.
I ached inside for love and affection, for the right kind of attention, for warm responses, for a lighter atmosphere, for peace. Even a hint of laughter made a day seem brighter. How do we define a home? Our impressions are largely shaped by the homes we grew up in or the ones we’ve built as adults.

Our lengthy time in lockdown has either given us a greater appreciation for the refuge and safety, the homely comfort of where we live, or it has made us notice its insufficiencies and defects. At its best, I believe that home should be a safe place, a shelter and sanctuary.
Life can be cruel and a family not all you hoped they would be, but home should be where empty hearts as well as empty bellies get filled. Home suggests a place of belonging, a space to be fully yourself, a welcome that never gets worn out. Although such qualities are mostly found in our forever Home with God.
“The fruit of that righteousness will be peace; its effect will be quietness and confidence forever. My people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest.” — Isaiah 32:17-18 NIV
As I seek to create a meaningful Advent observance, what I’m drawn to focus on most is how God took on human flesh, and actually came to physically dwell with us.
Jesus left heaven’s home to become one with us, gave up His holy privileges to be born into a world of darkness, sin, pain, and chaos. He opens His home to the wounded, the broken, and lost, to all who need saving from themselves. People just like you and me, in fact.
“The Word became flesh and blood, and moved into the neighborhood. We saw the glory with our own eyes, the one-of-a-kind glory, like Father, like Son, generous inside and out, true from start to finish.” — John 1:14 MSG

Heaven opens its gates to let us in. Heaven’s only begotten Son becomes our Saviour, Lord, and King. We become God’s adopted children by faith in Christ, now made part of the family. We are welcomed into the kind of home we were always meant to inhabit.
“Of what great worth is Your loving-kindness, O God! The children of men come and are safe in the shadow of Your wings. They are filled with the riches of Your house. And You give them a drink from Your river of joy. All life came from You. In Your light we see light.” — Psalm 36:7-9 NLV
During Advent, we remember Jesus being born on earth. We look for the Light of His presence in a world growing darker by the day. Our hopes are ignited for His eventual glorious reappearing. We pray, contemplate, and celebrate.
And we make room to receive Jesus anew. Let Him be born again in our hearts. Offer Him a home, a place to feel welcome. Reflect on His coming to earth with joyful anticipation.
The home we offer God is a surrendered and receptive heart which is journeying ever closer to the spiritual homeland of His presence. And a mind engaged more with the eternal than the temporal and temporary things of life. May that be our goal during Advent and beyond.

Hello Dear Friends, it feels good to be slowly easing myself back into blogging again! Although I’m still very fatigued, I hope to write a couple of posts before taking a Christmas break. How are you planning to savour Advent? Blessings and love. xo 😊💟
Thank you for this reflection, Joy. Even though it may have been difficult to write, the light shines through the darkness. I pray that you will find rest, refreshment, and light this Advent season. My own Advent journey will be interesting. A four week course that I am leading for my final project for class begins Tuesday. I will be seeking the light and love of Christ as our house is slowly put together. Much love to you, dear sister 💜
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Dear Michael, I’m always grateful for the Light that shines brighter still in the darkest hours we go through. Thank you for your lovely prayer. I receive those gracious words into my weary soul. You sound extra busy as usual especially during this Advent season. But I’m guessing it’s a good kind of busy that’s fulfilling as well. May you enjoy to the full this first Christmas in your new home. I pray that the light, life, love, hope, and joy of the Lord will be closely and clearly present with you and your loved ones. ❤️
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Christmas joy to you my fellow writer bringing JOY to the WORLD.
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Thank you, James, dear friend, Brother in Christ and fellow JOY-sharer. May the days of Advent be full of joy, hope, and abundant blessings.
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Dear Joy,
Oh, it is so wonderful to see your words here today. You have conveyed a precious and beautiful glimpse of our true HOME that we are waiting for. I can see such amazing healing that the Lord has brought to you, in places that were so broken from your past. What a sweet gift of mercy that you have opened and shared with all of us here. You have brought such a truth to me that speaks of these “light and momentary troubles” and lifts my eyes to the glory that awaits. Thank you dear sister for such a gift on this first week of Advent. Blessings, and love and hugs to you across the pond!xoxo
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Dear Bettie, it feels good to be back even if I’m still struggling quite a bit health-wise. I’m so pleased you were blessed by this reminder of our true Home which we wait for with eagerness and deep longing in our hearts. Your sweet perception of how far I have come in my healing journey is a beautiful gift of encouragement I am grateful for. May our eyes look beyond our “light and momentary troubles” which feel anything but, and may they focus most on the hope we have in Jesus and the glory that awaits us. Blessings, love and hugs to you, too, precious sister and cherished friend. xoxo 💜
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Oh Joy, as soon as I read your words of how a “home should be a safe place, a shelter and sanctuary,” I thought of Jesus. With Him we are always welcome and can fully be ourselves. My heart aches for you and how it was growing up. I thank God the Sun of righteousness arose with healing in His wings and pulled you to shelter beneath His wings! What a glory that will be one day when we may forever live in our everlasting home! And yes, in this season, may we make room to receive Jesus anew! Love and hugs to you!
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Hi Trudy, it’s so good to hear from you again! Yes, you’re right, our “safe place..shelter and sanctuary” are exactly what we have in Jesus. I’m so glad He brought me into His safe place when I was in my late teens. It was His welcoming, merciful, unconditional love that drew me in, and still does. My past can cause me pain now and then but it doesn’t hurt like it used to. Some days I really yearn for our forever Home with God because this world can be too overwhelming, painful and hard. But saying that, I seek to live for Him now, and want to help draw others to faith in Christ before I die. I hope and pray your Advent season will be as peaceful as possible, and blessed in every way with increasing hope and joy. I’m pleased you’re back to blogging as well, and I hope to drop by soon to catch up with you. Love and hugs to you, too, dear friend! xo 💜
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